My husband is also highly intelligent and at the same time missing common sense. So we agree he has no common sense. You're both going to be much happier if you don't have to lecture him on how no, you don't want to order pizza yet again tonight and yeah, you really do want to get up early Sunday morning to go to a workout class. Back off him. Don't scald the dog to keep the bath warm. I just keep taking sleeves out each day because the box is still sitting in the back of my truck. But he also seems to have no ambition. cause your little one was saying "ow" I think seeing a Dr would be a good idea. His parents didn't completely raise him. Cops: Do you have any idea what cause the fire leading to your girlfriend's death? I don’t know what to do. He fell for multiple scams, ended up with several thousand dollars worth of credit card debt at the age of 24, and was involved in several motor vehicle accidents (all his fault) due to ignorance and or naivety. Lots of debt? I also think that the stress of another child is probably effecting him too. He's nearly 30. It’s making the connection between laughing and what is funny that is hard to understand. Maybe you and your husband can go in together. I don’t think anything indicates a learning disability besides not checking the water temperature for the dogs. has he always been like this or is it something new? I'd bet money that your boyfriend went to a similar school, and has an issue he knows about and has withheld from you. It would be wild if this all turned out to be like the carbon monoxide monitor or the bed bugs posts haha. If he forgets things at the grocery store, that's not really a big deal. Your boyfriend is a dumbass and put you in danger, has burned animals and caught your house on fire. He has not earned one single dollar in 4 years and 3 months even though he has a masters degree. He's probably shutting down a bit more that usual also. They play Iron Maiden and Ozzy Osbourne until the patient cracks. Read My Girlfriend's Boyfriend reviews from parents on Common Sense Media. At his age, he may never be. I hope things work out for you best of luck. It's okay to leave someone because they have no common sense. But it’s hard to tell without seeing the whole picture. For me? Good luck I pray you get your pictures back. In your case, it seems "new" and the incident with the baby is a red red flag. On January 9, 1776, writer Thomas Paine publishes his pamphlet “Common Sense,” setting forth his arguments in favor of American independence. He was working a minimum wage job and still is, he can't get anything other than that due to having no school diploma but I'm not here to judge him over that. Some if it sounds like all too common "guy stuff," just not seeing domestic details as very important and getting distracted/not multi-tasking well. I am in my second marriage and my husband was laid off over 4 years ago and has not found a job yet. Obviously he can't be putting your son in hot water, but that kind of thing doesn't sound too unusual for a male to do. Okay well I’m not gonna lie I’m very interested to see where this goes. He's TWENTY NINE and has the common sense of a sheltered twelve year old. I keep getting frustrated and slowly turned off by certain things. Maybe some people enjoy dating a child, but I know that I need to an adult who’s capable of taking care of himself. Sounds like the guy found himself a new mom when he moved out of his parent's house. It is ruining our relationship. If you need someone to babysit when you go to the therapist is it possible that you can get a babysitter or bring the little one along? I would move out and give him time to live on his own before moving this relationship forward. There is also another one(that I hesitate mentioning, but since it happened to a family member(different from above person), I'll mention it, and also state this is VERY RARE--Early-Onset Alzheimer's. The only conclusion they came to was that he had maturity issues due to his parents treating him like a baby for longer than they should have done. I would def get a Dr. appointment for him or try again to find out why he is not connected with you and the children. Besides the extreme dumbness and carelessness, he is also a spoiled mommas boy and he doesn’t seem to have a lot of ambition and goals. I need this done because XXXXXX. and a passive agressive personality is someone that is angry, does not express it and does other things so you will stop giving him assignments instead of saying straight out 'hey I need some time, too'.I have a sister who was particular about her lists also. My brother can be like this. There are several kinds of time that a family needs. If this is more recent behavior, maybe he has something wrong with him medically, and this is the way it is manifesting itself. He needs some serious help and maybe being alone will be just what he needs to get his shit together and grow up. Is he depressed? Long story short, it turns out he told these men his exact working hours, which happened to be a very late shift from 3pm until midnight and our home was invaded. The men are all tired of being harped on. Your age difference is not that significant-- BUT something to consider-- there aren't that many together, responsible and professional 26-year-olds who want a stable, longterm committed relationship with a 19 year old. And honey YOU ARE. You might not notice she has a cognitive disability. And I hope that within all of the happenings, concerns and responsibilities that you take some time for yourself. Well, you've gotten lots of responses and the only think I can think of to add, is maybe it would help you guys to get a babysitter (or like we do, switch off with another couple who has kids - you watch their kids one week and they watch yours the next) so you can go out and have a date night. PLEASE PLEASE--don't let me scare you, that is NOT my intention, I'm just merely throwing out suggestions. Some people are okay with holding their partner's hand through this kind of stuff, but I would wager that most -- yourself included -- are not. Last night he put my son into a tub of water that was 130 degrees, which thank goodness he did not have to go to the ER but there is no excuse. Stop trying to make him be a grown-up and get yourself and the dogs out of there. Automatically alarm bells were ringing for me, because we live in an area where random men have been known to call on your house to check if you're at home and then if they notice you're not at home, they will invade your property and steal things. Here is the big question you need to answer for yourself: can you fully trust this man to be there for you and your family unit and to do what is needed to be done to reach your goals together? I was mortified! But if he's just too plain stupid, I'm afraid you'll have to look elsewhere if you intend to ever get children. Then, talk with him. I have asked him what is on his mind that he is so distracted and he always says nothing. I have always thought he lacked common sense somewhat, but lately too many things have been happening. 2 things come to mind from my own situation.....as others mentioned, i'm worried about early dementia signs with my husband. LOL He forgets half of what I ask him to do. Just because he is sleeping, does not mean he is not sleep deprived. A good marriage takes hard work, commitment and sacrifice. It could be stress, it could be ADD, it could be a lot of other medical things, but you are not equipped to figure it out. I don't think the child would stay safe for long. I'm sure he's just fine in conversation and that's one of the reasons you're with him. That way, he also feels like he has a say in the matter :). Don't feel bad, you have to look out for yourself first. He does stupid things and thinks they are no big deal, but I feel like they all add up. Just reading the other posts, and I've gotta say this: LADIES, LADIES! I'm honestly surprised he's made it to 29, but she might not if she stays with him. Please, don't do that to yourself. Another tip is to prevent yourself from over thinking. But if it is bothering you so tremendously, have a talk with him and let him present his case as well and see if there isn't something going on underneath the surface of things. Everything screams, ‘They’ll never make it.’ But, you know, it works. In 1996, Common Sense appeared on the Red Hot Organization 's compilation CD, America Is Dying Slowly (A.I.D.S. Hopefully you became less restrictive and he became more of a team player and you even yourselves out and you are back to normal by now. Do the heavy metals test OP! YES, we are better at most things. Britney Spears Parody iTunes Download: http://bit.ly/NoCommonSenseMeUSThank you for sharing on Facebook & Twitter! Good luck and let us know what happens! He is still in therapy. In my opinion, it's about 0%, but I can see how a reasonable person could go as high as 5 or 6. Sounds like Adult ADD. Travis Bradberry. I don’t trust him, and I am actually starting to wonder if there is something more seriously wrong with him. We sat down and talk about his distraction to find solutions. If it's not, you should leave so both of you can find someone you're better suited to be with. You need to be able to leave the kids with your husband once in a while and with this problem Im sure you wouldnt be able to do that without great concern. Is that who you want as a life partner? Personally I can deal with a lot of things but stupid is not one of them. How can I make this work, or even help him? I feel like from what you’ve said so far there might not be balance in the relationship. And see if you can take your pets too because I do not trust him with anything alive. These things are odd. It doesn't have to be with the preface that it's just about him, maybe that you feel you guys are out of sync or that you want some help with figuring out how to find balance as a new family of 4. Assuming the issue isn't that your sense of humor disconnect is about differing values, here's how the experts say you can find some common ground and … Potential for job loss, not feeling right? NO desire to get one? That tends to be a typical male response to a woman's controlling behavior. If your hubs almost burned your son that is your last straw and you need to tell him I can take the "I forgot blah blah blah, but reality check you almost seriously hurt our son" Tell him he needs to go to a therapist a doctor, someone. Scary stuff. Sounds like he is becoming very forgetful/out of it? 1 decade ago. They didn't manage to steal anything because thankfully I was home and our dogs started barking and kicking up a stink but they definitely attempted to enter our property, I heard the backdoor smash and saw the glass everywhere. Truth be told, I was pretty worried they were debt collectors or something as we have some degree of debts. He's already hurt your dogs (twice) which is unacceptable. by Anne Brown on April 10, 2017 in Behavioral Health, Health and Wellness, Love and Relationships. He’s 28 ffs... he needs to join the military or something but maybe that would get him killed since he’d probably just tell the enemies exactly where he’s positioned and if he’s armed or not... You cannot be his parent.. you have a decision to make. When he was 23 he was also mugged and beaten up badly by two men because he was drunk in an overseas (Again) country and walking the streets alone to get back to his hotel. Getting on th computer while you have guests...I can see my husband doing that if he wasn't particularly FOND of the people who were having dinner with us...lol. That's fine. I love him, a lot, it's just he has no concept of fashion or personal style and to me it's a massive turn off. Say you get married to him and have a child, I can think of so many ways that he could put that child in danger based on his lack of common sense. Sounds like you need to decide if he can be a partner and not someone you will need to parent. Although little Mild autism functions differently, but definitely Might have some symptoms that could overlap with his behavior. So, my fellow “book smart” people, bear in mind that haters gonna hate (and graters gonna grate….cheese all over the casserole you have no idea how to cook). It's okay, and it's perfectly acceptable to leave. My husband like yours is very intelligent, and it is funny sometimes I wonder how he holds such an important job that requires order, and organization LOL. Give this to a boyfriend who likes his fried food, but not the extra hours he has to put in as the gym to make up for it. He seems to lack total common sense, to the point that I've asked him if he was ever tested as a child for a learning disability. Most of us know or have known someone we care about who has come under the influence of a … Resurrection was Common Sense's last album produced almost entirely by his long-time production partner, No I.D., who would later become a mentor to a young Kanye West. I'm not stupid or dumb, I'm actually quite intelligent. He's no longer a victim, he's a volunteer. They are highly intelligent, yet lack common sense. When I was reading this I thought you were describing my marriage! There are also the very extreme circumstances that he is maturing a bit earlier and just overwhelmed and becoming forgetful. Be honest and answer quickly. When his problem is personal, my husband usually doesn't talk about it. We dated for 2 years and I'm sure I only saw the tip of the iceberg. That's enough to leave without feeling like a huge bitch. Perhaps through doing that, going on a date, talking on an intimate level, you will discover what is really going on with him now and learn to love him and begin to trust him again. He also may be feeling a little over controlled. It doesn't sound like he cares about your feelings much. Your dogs are unsafe with this guy. He cannot think of future consequences maybe due to being raised in a bubble BUT after some time this should have dissipated. You are only twenty two and he is likely going to ruin your life. Good luck to you. He was on pyjamas, programming on his computer: he had had an idea for a program he was working on, began to test it and forgot we had guests! It's okay to leave someone because they have no common sense. I had to stop taking that medication. I've always been the type of person where I make small things into much larger things. Definitely get professional help. Maybe have him see a neurologist who can diagnose brain conditions, if no one else can seem to find out what it is. Then again that’s not doing much since he doesn’t have anything wrong besides being underdeveloped. Good luck~! You may also be feeling somewhat more stressed. First, do not get children the way things are right now. Is it possible you have self esteem issues? If your man's IQ is high enough to make improvement possible, perhaps a therapist could train to be more assertive and take more responsibility. To be honest, the tone of your complaints sound like you treat him like a kid, and he might be rebelling like a kid. From a psychological standpoint humor is complicated. What’s a heavy metals test? I see the results of this daily in Chicago where I'm studying the field. She is nice but strange. Then the real kicker, the real big stinker that has made me consider everything. Hi everyone. I'd just like to say before I start, I'm not here to sh*t talk my boyfriend. He perhaps needs a little break. BT. I am going to use sticky notes, maybe that will help you as well. ... No matter how affectionate ... (or broke or lazy.) Just wanted to let you know you can try and take you hard drive to Frys electronics or even best buy they have a service that can get data off your hard drive and possible get your pictures back. Our hubbies are bright men, so it sounds awful that we need to speak to them like they are children sometimes. Then when he has contact with them by phone or in person, he becomes depressed, argumentative, self-critical, perfectionistic, angry, combative, or withdrawn. Turn on suggestions. I was shocked he actually said that because I felt after nursing 2 kids and taking on most of responsibilities daily, I would never once expect or need him to say to me "thanks for XXX" so it would never dawn on me to have to go out of my way to tell him "thanks for changing a diaper you did a good job". Take the lead and be the time manager by being creating the atmosphere of communication that you want in your family's home. i have to do this for my mother who has dementia or she will scald herself. At 14 you tend to have developed some common sense. Let him know how it is affecting you, and making you feel. Also, no high school diploma STILL?? If he is not consciously doing it on purpose due to an issue, then there is this question: Do Seizure disorders run in his family? He sounds super distracted. Lol I’m biased but feel like most MILs are wacky. But I wouldn't ignore it if you are getting a bad feeling about his behavior. In addition, hubby might be grieving in his own way also for your mother, or perhaps he is actually fostering an illness or condition of sorts. You have all of the giant red flags in front of you, so if you decide to move forward with him in whatever capacity, bear in mind you were well aware all along of this very serious problem. *WTF*. Really. 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